Next year is my 20 year HS reunion. There is a Facebook group and the planning has begun.
There were 565 students in my graduating class, I know this because my GF was #57, missing top 10% by 1. That is a lot of students. Yet only 60 or so came to the 10 year reunion, and of those 60 maybe 10-15 of them were people I actually knew well enough to remember 10 years later.
When I graduated HS I immediately began to lose touch with my friends. Within 2 years there was only one friend I stayed in touch with. Life moved on, new people entered and exited, new jobs, new adventures, new cities, new schools, and a new family with new responsibilities. By my 10 year reunion I could only name a few dozen people I was friends with in HS.
As social media began to bloom I began to find those few dozen people online. Char and I have always stayed in touch with, but then I found Michelle, Claudia, and Neil. When Facebook burst into our lives I found Matt Kennedy and Chris Irrizarry and that whole gang.
This past year I have traveled to SC to re-connect with Mhari and to AL to re-connect with Lisa and to DC to re-connect with Chris. I keep tabs on how Nikki and that group of people are doing through FB newsfeeds and I know that when I make it back down to S FL I will visit with them.
So, when Char asked me about going to our 20 year reunion I asked, "what is the point?" To pay money to go to some dinner where I may or may not know the people who will show up? I guess it depends on if they use social media to showcase who is coming so that I know who I will get to see. There are still a handful of people who are not on FB yet that I would love to connect with, but do I need to pay for a plane ticket and dinner ticket just to see if they show up, or do I wait for them to join Facebook?
I am sure there are many different stories and perspectives about how Facebook and other social media channels have impacted reunions, but for me, it has made them less valuable.
Besides, if I do not go, I can stay in denial that it has been 20 years since I graduated.