I am feeling frustrated

Perhaps I need some advice...

Let's see...  I know someone who does things that can be considered a "cry for help" or maybe it is not so much of a "cry" maybe it is more of an attempt at communicating. But it is not based in any type of honesty. What I mean by that is the way they are trying to communicate is not direct and does not allow for any two-way communication. I am not even sure it is an attempt to communicate. It may have nothing to do with me at all...it may just be about holding on or a personal attempt for this person to work something out and they do not need me, specifically, at all.  I do not know. I really hate not knowing.

You know what the definition of frustrating is? "a blocked goal." So imagine if someone seems to want something from you, you do not know what, they will not tell you what they want directly, perhaps because they do not know what it is, but they keep reaching out, and they reach out in a way that you can not respond, ask questions, you just have to wait.

At the same time I get mad at myself - often actually - because I have responded and behaved very poorly toward this person on many occasions, so I tend to blame myself for this issue. I want to clear things up, but I do not know how and I tend to not trust myself around this person sometimes now - because I have not been myself on many occasions. So - I get frustrated with them and I get mad at myself and I want it all to go away, but not all of it. I just want to start over - clean slate. But how? when?

So, advice #1 - do not worry about it - when they are ready to speak with me directly be there and listen, but other than that it is their problem not mine.

Good advice. The challenge is...what is the challenge. The challenge is I would like a normal relationship with this person. I think we could have a great friendship, if only we could "get it together..." - And well...I am veruca salt and when I want something "I want it now!"

advice #2 - confront the person directly.

Yeah - if you know me, you know I have already tried that one...it did not go very well.

advice #3 - answer this person indirectly - play the same game...

yeah - I did that one too. But it is not my style and it made me start questioning my sanity.

advice #4 - run away - fast -

I did. I have. a few times. but I honestly believe that is not the right solution. in fact that is not a solution at all...that is running, and I do not want to do that again.

So....any other advice out there?

Update -

Two more thoughts on this -

1. the English language needs a gender neutral pronoun.

2. Thank you to my friend Joe who played the perfect song for me last night while I was writing this.

Wish I knew what you were looking for.
Might have known what you would find.
Wish I knew what you were looking for.
Might have known what you would find.